I’m a sucker for details, from key chains to cars I notice and work on every last bit. Naturally I did the same for my wedding, only it didn’t go as planned – yikes!
First of all, yea I’m married – needless to add, happily! – Alhamdulillah. It’s been super crazy but life is settling down.
So yea wedding – I’ve been dreading it but planning it all the same, the themes and colours and dresses and entrances… all is well that ends well, but what about those that end chaotically? :p My Mehndi and Baraat themes went to the drain when the vendor decided to be a douche and not pay attention to the asked details, I would’ve cried if it weren’t for the two life saving teams that held me up throughout; my makeup artist and my photographer/videographer – my experience with the two topped the list and I decided to not panic and smile instead.
I landed in Pakistan almost two months before the wedding (and we’ve been mentally preparing ourselves since 2014 – 3 years – should be enough, right?) and still didn’t feel as though I had ample time to strike off all my wedding chores. It bugged me more than it should, I didn’t plan neither expected an extravagant wedding, nor did I went out of my way with decor and details, my preparations were very much like any ordinary bride’s would be, so why so much of a hassle? 3 months later I realised it wasn’t because weddings are hard or families troublesome ( maybe a bit, but more on that later), it’s all because of lack of honesty and sincerity among the local business communities.
I custom ordered all my dresses, some from high-end boutiques and some from stores around the Liberty market and not only the tag on these dresses differ but the entire buying experience. I wouldn’t fall into ‘money buys better’ debate at the moment but would however like to emphasise how literally our market has implemented that. Nowhere during my entire shopping haul in Pakistan did I pay for the product quality, I paid for the experience, services and convenience. Not that it’s wrong, what’s wrong is that apparently everyone’s following the same model, why dude?
A small shop in the middle of the market isn’t expected to deliver as asked in time, the product promised might infinitely differ from the product delivered (whenever that may be) and you can’t complain. You can’t complain because well you didn’t pay a lot for it, not as much as the guys on the fancier side of the street are charging. So basically the moral of the story is that I should’ve opted for venues and vendors that sit in a fancy building surrounded by lavish businesses if I wanted the product or service I will or simply make-do without it, see the fancier the brand the better because even though the others are capable they wouldn’t deliver or exert as much effort, not until you double the price. Let me clarify one thing before signing off the above said is regardless of quality, a bouquet from a florist on the street and the one in the mall have the same options and styles and flowers even, but the one on the street assumes that just because I’m paying 10 bucks less than the mall my 7 pm actually means a 9:00.
You might wonder that honesty and sincerity are only relative and that businesses all over the world follow the ‘serve better charge better’ rule but the difference here is that most people are in their profession out of obligation or duty, I hardly came across people who were enthusiastic about their work, who truly wanted to present their talent or abilities, its upsetting that vocations such as a decorator and designer are inspired more by money than the art itself. I understand that my experience is very subjective, that people might not have suffered the same with their workers, but for someone outside of Pakistan and only remotely familiar with the clever minds of the locals, dealing with suppliers and vendors was the most challenging part. I realised it too late that all I had to do to discipline them was pay a little extra.